Are you a yo-yo dieter? Have you ever struggled to stick to a plan? Maybe you’re the type of person who grinds it out at the gym and in return gets nothing! Have you learnt what you need to know before going on a weight loss plan?
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Food Can’t Possibly Be Evil
Imagine if we treated pens in the same way we treated food. If the ink dried out in our pen or if we found its shape too clumsy to write with, we’d simply toss it aside and that’ll be the end of it. Food is treated differently.
- A high fat dieter would not only avoid grains, he’ll preach about it to everyone he meets.
- Somebody on the 5:2 diet will swear that she’ll get cancer if she doesn’t fast.
- Most vegans believe that dairy will cause inflammation (it actually reduces inflammation).
This type of thinking causes two problems:
- We will set ourselves unreasonable expectations by limiting what we can and can’t eat.
- If we’re prone to self sabotage (and many weight loss clients are), we will indulge in “bad” foods.
But there’s no such thing as a “bad” food. Food cannot think and therefore it cannot be evil. Food has two roles. Firstly, food provides our body with the nutrition it needs function. Secondly, food is eaten because it tastes good and there is nothing wrong with that.
The problem comes when we divert our eating away from these roles. Eating out of stress, upset or boredom doesn’t aim to supply our body with what it needs. This emotional based eating often results in consumption past fullness. This is not enjoyable as we stop appreciation the taste.
Binge eating is NOT emotionally healthy!
As oppose to binge eating, consider getting to the route of your problem. As I mentioned in the first article of this blog, looking after your mental well-being has an astonishing correlation with weight loss.
It’s Your Job to Clean It Up
Being accountable is completely different to things being “your fault.” Although a situation isn’t your fault, it is still your job to clean it up.
Imagine if your child came home from school sick. You could miss a kettlebell class. Although it’s not your fault, you still need to find another class or cut down the calories to compromise. Perhaps you drank too much wine at a friends birthday party. You have the option to eat less calories for the rest of the week or accept that you won’t lose as much weight.
Don’t get in the habit of playing the blame game. Your lack of progress is no fault of your spouse, children, friends or commitments. Blaming dis-empowers you. When you’re too busy pointing fingers, someone else in your boat is managing to lose body fat.
Have Some Self Compassion
Now you know that it’s important not to blame. Does this mean that you need to be overly critical of yourself?
Absolutely not. As a person on a weight loss journey, you will have both triumphs and disappointments. However, I commonly see my weight loss clients pull their hair out over their disappointments whilst neglecting their successes.
Mental filtering is when a person magnifies the negative whilst filtering out the positive.
You shall never have a perfect weight loss plan. There will be days where you struggle to make your gym session or resist that delicious cup cake at an afternoon tea. It is wise to expect imperfection.
To show self compassion, I would suggest minding the following thought patterns:
- Seeing failure as a never ending string of events.
- Worrying about other peoples weight loss.
- Judging yourself or calling yourself names.
Your Weight Loss Plan…
You need to build a healthy relationship with food. I have encouraged many of my weight loss clients to visit a counsellor to manage this issue. Furthermore, take accountability for your actions and have some self compassion.